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Relationships both personal and professional are something we have all struggled with from time to time in our lives.  At one time or another someone you think you can trust betrays your trust and in such a way that it hurts very deeply.  Under most circumstances if the relationship is something of value, you can forgive the offending party and after working it out it actually strengthens the relationship.  

Then there are those times when either the nature of the offense or the conditions under which it occurred are not forgivable.  When this happens to me, it usually means that level trust is damaged to the point that I am unlikely to expend the effort to try and repair the relationship.  There have been a few exceptions to this my past but, as I have gotten older this happens less and less.  Maybe it is just me changing or maybe it is me finally wising up to the fact that if this person did this once they may do it again and are not worthy of the trust I had given them.  In that case the relationship was not all I had thought it was and it is best to let it go.  

Recent events have made take a long hard look at all my relationships and reevaluate them.  In the cases where major damage has been done I have decided that I am not willing to expend the effort to fix these relationships but instead scale back or completely cut off those relationships and refocus that energy.  This unused energy is then put towards making the remaining relationships stronger.   Sometimes on the rare occasions I have sought out new relationships and applied the lessons learned in the hope of making these new ones immune to this kind of damage and saving me from future anguish.